For empathetic, sensitive person overwhelmed with emotions such as jealousy, anger, dissatisfaction, negativity, pain, fear....is essential to make clear - are those my feelings? Because, in most cases you feel the feelings that other peoples have shoveled 'under the carpet'. And so, because YOU DO FEEL, and are aware of it, you believe that YOU are a bad person.
So not true!
The fact that you feel and are aware of those felling is good enough light th...at shines over the 'darkness' of the human soul. You are actually very brave, very aware person, because you feel. And sometimes you feel the others people self-denied emotions too. Just don't adopt these emotions as solely yours. They are not all yours.
How to dedifferentiate between Mine and Theirs? If you can bare feeling, if you can find the reason why you feel so in the moment, and it makes sense, for example "I envy her a good look" - that’s yours. And you can see what you can do about it. If you can't bare them, if you are drowning in negative feelings - they are not all yours. Swim to the shore instantly - draw a line between you and others. It's not useful to search whose feeling are they, it's hard to tell. When you can tell, well, deal with it only if other person wants to.
So, empaths, sensitive people: be aware of your own boundaries, of what Yours feelings are and don't let others to project their feelings onto you. Sensitive person is like a mirror of the feelings of the other, the mirror that feels the emotions others don't wont to or are unable to feel.
Here’s one nice technique: when you feel overwhelming feelings that doesn’t makes you feel good, for example hatred, jealousy (they are normal feeling of every human being), in your imagination turn them into some ridiculous form that will make you smile.
Try. And try again - smarter. It’s your wellbeing that counts not the feeling on it’s own.
I. S.